Relationships can be very complicated. The meshing of the complexities of two human beings can be overwhelmingly complex. Have you noticed the volumes of relationship books at Barnes & Noble? But one simple thing can make all the difference...being the best that you can be. Being a Superhero.

When we were children, we imagined only the best for ourselves. We couldn't wait to grow up and be firemen, astronauts, doctors, actors/singers or even the President. We were always looking forward to a future where we were powerful and courageous. We never thought of ourselves as lesser people and if we did, the "future" would take care of that. When I was a kid I never remember my friends saying: "I want to be miserable" or "I want to be a cocaine addict...stripper...a criminal or work in a stressful, thankless job." We wanted to be Superheros. Why can children see the potential of all they can be? And why as adults can we not?

The stress of growing up can destroy our hopes, dreams and abilities to see the full potential of ourselves, I know. You can't just tell your boss "Shove it" if you have not pursued more education. Financial limitations, abusive parents, conditioned fears, accumulated guilt and less than stellar growing environments are just a small part of why we have trouble seeing our greater powers. But in your relationships with others, you have a choice. You choose to get to know someone better. You choose to date, have sex and fall in love. Relationships are freeing. They are far more liberating than almost any other aspect of your life. If there is no other place in your life where you can tap into the hidden dreams, hopes and potential of all that you can be, then relationships are a good place to start. Giving someone the very best of yourself will all but guarantee a successful relationship.

Make the choice to look within yourself for the Superhero. When you stand bold, proud and strong, the love you share with another person will move mountains. Be the epitome of "that someone very special" and you will be rewarded. And go back and read some of those old comic books...the Superhero always wins...