When we grew up, we were exposed to all sorts of examples of relationships and romantic ideals from television shows, movies and music. Media has a big effect on how we think our relationships should be like. The most pronounced of these ideals is the "one true love". We tend to believe that there is only one true love for us. This is a big disappointment to the people who have already believed that they have had the "one", only for that relationship to end in divorce or break up. Alot of these folks really think that their shot for eternal love is over, and now they must resort to settling with a new partner... a comfortable companion, but who will never match up to their lost love.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Any one of us has the possibility to connect again with another soulmate. There is not just one soulmate for each of us, but the real chance to know another soul as intimately as we did our true love. A soulmate is a person that you connect with on a spiritual level. Another person whose soul touches yours. It is not a lottery or crapshoot that you touch the soul of another, but a choice you make to do so. Too many people believe that they are not in control of whom they fall in love with, but like leaves in the wind, just end up where they may. A soulmate is a person that on one hand you may have known before in another life and you may instantly recognize, or on the other, someone you choose to reach out spiritually to and get to know on that level. Anyone around us has the possibility of being a true love. I don't believe there is just one of anything that beautiful.

If we do believe that there is only one true love, then we run into the possibility of becoming obsessed with that individual. You may end up sacrificing any part of you to be with or hang on to this lover. As we have discussed before, obsession is not an ingredient of a strong relationship. There is nothing more uncomfortable than thinking that we could lose forever the one and only love we can experience in our lives. That would make me a nervous wreck and I would not fully enjoy my relationship. I would put pressure on myself to be the best I could be. I may sacrifice interests, hobbies, friends, and beliefs to make sure the relationship stayed on a smooth path. Being the best you can be must be a choice you make, not a fear to be otherwise. It is all about choices. We have endless choices for happiness as long as we know it is up to us, and not at the whim of chance. We have all the power to make ourselves into anything we want to be. We have choices to discover, get to know better, touch their soul and fall in love with another person. We can heal from bad relationships knowing full well that the world is wide open to us and that we have learned many lessons that give us the wisdom to find an even stronger relationship.

Believe that if you made the choice, anyone around you could be the "one" if only you gave them the chance. Remember this......99% of the time we are only judging potential partners on how they look, what car they drive, how much money they have, quirks that get on our nerves or any number of risky first impressions. Why is looking at the soul of another only count for 1%? It should be the FIRST thing you look at in a potential lover and let the three dimensional chips fall where they may. Again, even if you believe that you have met your "one and only", do they really believe that of you? Relationships are funny in that one partner typically loves the other more. It is not equal in its intensity. Be careful that your perspective isn't running away with your sensibilities, meaning that from your perspective you know you have found your soulmate, but from his perspective you are just the "comfortable companion". Most couples can't communicate good enough to make it clear to themselves which is which. They keep their feelings to themselves because they are content with the status quo.......until they are gone. You have all the choices. Make the choice to look at the soul of anyone that may be around you. Give potential mates a chance. Even if no one else will do it this way, know that you will rise above the fray and express your power and belief that you will be happy. You will no longer be in the dark. Make your power of choice the shining light that illuminates your world for all to see. Light the path for others and inherit your reality. Make sure that you are "The One"...